PPT Slide

Phase I

Tension, blaming/arguing

*Best time to encourage abused to develop a safety plan* for the family

*See “Safety Planning”

Phase II

Battering,slapping, choking,

verbal threats, weapons

*Best time to encourage

abused to call Police

Phase III

Calm/honeymoon stage

Abuser promises not to

do it again, brings gifts

*Be patient with abused,

its hard to break

this cycle here

Family Violence Cycle

1. Isolating somebody, making it difficult for family/friend contact

2. Use of intimidation tactics like preventing someone from leaving the room

3. Use of uninvited touching or of coercion to obtain sex

4. Use of harsh personal criticism, including name-calling and put-downs

5. Attempts to publicly embarrass or humiliate

6. Threatening to withhold financial support/transportation in order to control

7. Sabotaging someone’s attempts to work outside the home

8. Twisting words to mean something not intended

9. Manipulating children to “see things my way”

10. Claiming to be absolute authority in the home, refusing to give anyone any say

Adapted from Battered But Not Broken by Patricia Riddle Gaddis, Judson Press, 1996

*Be aware that Alcohol/Drugs aggravates the Family Violence cycle.